Holiday Gratitude 2014

Two years ago, a wise friend told me, “If you want to start writing a book in two years, start a blog now.” Following her advice has changed my life.

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This blog has opened so many doors for me, and given me the opportunity to engage all of you in an important conversation about work-family issues for fathers. Thanks to your support of this blog, I have been able to write at some of the most prestigious outlets in the country- Time, Harvard Business Review, the Wall Street Journal. I’ve seen my name in Esquire and the Atlantic. I’ve done national TV and radio (I’m especially proud to have appeared on both MSNBC and Fox News!). I’ve become a member of the fraternity of Dad Bloggers- a peer support network which I greatly value. I’ve even been to the White House, where I moderated a panel of executives from forward-thinking companies. What a gift you have all given me, especially over this past year!

I’ve already received more from this blog (and you) than I ever expected. I consider myself incredibly fortunate.

But, I am very happy to announce that, just a few weeks ago (and just about two years after starting the blog), I signed the contract to write my first book. Please look for The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home at booksellers in time for Father’s Day. I’ll be sure to update you periodically about the book.

Finally, I just want to take this opportunity to wish you all a Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and a holiday season full of love, gratitude and family.See you in 2015

Hey Dads: Year-Long Presence Is the Best Christmas Present

Our kids may want things, but they NEED time with their fathers. This Christmas, instead of stuff, we should give our kids the opportunities to do more fun things with us. Here are a few ideas.

Regardless of what you and your kids like to do, why not have Santa give you more opportunities to do them together

The best gift you can give your kids is your consistent presence. Happily, instead of buying your kids the latest junky plastic thingamabob they have their eye on, we can use Christmas (or Hanukkah) gifts as a as an excuse to purchase things that create opportunities for time together. Here are a few suggestions: Continue reading

Welcome HBR Blog Readers- “Less Rigid Forms of Flexibility”

“The most important need for many employees is not to get away from work (through long leaves or part-time work), but to find satisfying ways to combine work and family life… These forms of everyday work flexibility are much more important than the more publicized forms of workplace flexibility such as mommy tracks or daddy tracks…. What we need are less rigid forms of work flexibility… that make it more likely that employees can maintain equal commitments between work and family”

-Work-Life Pioneer Tim Hall, as quoted in my new HBR Online article, Flex Time Doesn’t Need to be an HR Policy

Welcome to Fathers, Work and Family
Welcome to Fathers, Work and Family

Thank you for reading, and for visiting my site. For those of you who are visiting Fathers, Work and Family for the first time, feel free to have a look around. A link to my “Greatest Hits” here (I particularly recommend you read this and this), links to my work at HBR, The Wall Street Journal and Time, Good Men Project and Huffington Post, and my participation at the White House Working Families Summit up at the top of the page, category listings along the right-hand side, and of course, buttons you can use to follow Fathers, Work and Family via email, twitter or Facebook.

Every Day Is a Gift: Giving Thanks for a Friend I Never Met

“Be present. Enjoy your life. Enjoy the time you have with those you love. Every day is a gift.”

I never met Oren Miller, but I consider him a friend. When I started blogging, Oren stumbled upon me on the internet and invited me to join a new Facebook group he created for dad bloggers.

Oren MIller and his son (Oren shared this photo with me when he wrote as a guest for FWF
Oren MIller and his son (Oren shared this photo with me when he wrote as a guest for FWF)

This group has become an important part of my life. I often describe Dad Bloggers as one third frat house, one third writing seminar, and one third safe haven for peer support. I am a better writer and have a fuller life both online and in real life thanks to this group.

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TMZ, Rock and Roll, Flextime, Paternity Leave and Football: Work-Family News Roundup, November 2014

Here’s our monthly round-up of my favorite fathers, work and family-related news and analysis from the past month

And, now, the latest fathers, Work and Family news
And, now, the latest Fathers, Work and Family news

First, here’s what I’ve been up to lately. I’ve been very busy at the Huffington Post, publishing three articles:

I was interviewed for the Knights of Columbus’ excellent website that promotes involved fatherhood- Fathers for Good. Here’s the transcript of our Q&A, entitled “Father Time

Catalyst, a leading Work-Family advocacy and consulting organization reposted my article about the “CEO Dads” for their On the MARC (Men Advocating Real Change) website “Another CEO Chooses Fatherhood

And, now to the best of the rest:

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The Challenges Faced by Working Dads in 2014: All In One Great Infographic!

From the White House and the Department of Labor: The Challenges Faced by Working Dads in 2014
From the White House and the Department of Labor: The Challenges Faced by Working Dads in 2014


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“Let’s be good to each other” …and 14 more rules for me and Nick while Amy’s out of town for work

Nick and I just dropped Amy off at the airport- she’ll be in Birmingham and Chicago for most of the rest of the month with the cast and crew of “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” (thankfully, we’ll all be in Chicago together over Thanksgiving and then Amy will be back in New York for December). This leaves me and Nick home to take care of each other.

With Amy away for work, Nick and I have to take care of each other
With Amy away for work, Nick and I have to take care of each other

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