SOTU, Swiffer, Buzzfeed, The Onion and Ruth Bader Ginsberg: Work-Family News Roundup January 2015

Fatherhood, Work and Family have been in the news a lot lately. Here’s a roundup of some of my favorite content from the past few months.

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First, here’s what I’ve been up to:

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The Key to Work-Life Success: Intentional Choices

“When we consciously think about our actions and how we spend our time, we tend to be more consistent with our priorities. When we are on auto-pilot, we drift from our priorities and towards whatever happens to be most urgent at the moment “

Sometimes I allow 24/7 connectivity to work get in the way of family time
Sometimes I allow 24/7 connectivity to work get in the way of family time

A few months ago, a financial planner gave a guest lecture to students at my university about the importance of smart financial management right out of college. He talked about his own spending habits when he got his first job. As he drove to work for his first day, he stopped along the way for a Starbucks – after all, he had money now, and he deserved a treat. Later that day, his new colleagues took him out to lunch at a local café. What started as one-off decisions quickly became habits. Continue reading

My New Year’s Resolution: Better Work-Family Balance Through Goal-Setting (and a Handy-Dandy Fitness App)

Setting specific, measureable goals could be the key to better work and family balance. Here’s how

We are more likely to spend quality time with family if we set goals and plan ahead
We are more likely to spend quality time with family if we set goals and plan ahead

New Year’s Resolutions Stink

For the past few years, my New Year’s Resolution has been “To get in better shape.” Which, like most New Year’s resolutions, is a lousy, vague “do your best” style goal- these are largely ineffective. In fact, research shows that we are more likely to stick to and reach our goals when they are specific and measurable, when they are difficult enough to require sustained effort but are still realistically attainable, and when they have a deadline. Continue reading

Holiday Gratitude 2014

Two years ago, a wise friend told me, “If you want to start writing a book in two years, start a blog now.” Following her advice has changed my life.

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This blog has opened so many doors for me, and given me the opportunity to engage all of you in an important conversation about work-family issues for fathers. Continue reading

Hey Dads: Year-Long Presence Is the Best Christmas Present

Our kids may want things, but they NEED time with their fathers. This Christmas, instead of stuff, we should give our kids the opportunities to do more fun things with us. Here are a few ideas.

Regardless of what you and your kids like to do, why not have Santa give you more opportunities to do them together

The best gift you can give your kids is your consistent presence. Happily, instead of buying your kids the latest junky plastic thingamabob they have their eye on, we can use Christmas (or Hanukkah) gifts as a as an excuse to purchase things that create opportunities for time together. Here are a few suggestions: Continue reading

Welcome HBR Blog Readers- “Less Rigid Forms of Flexibility”

“The most important need for many employees is not to get away from work (through long leaves or part-time work), but to find satisfying ways to combine work and family life… These forms of everyday work flexibility are much more important than the more publicized forms of workplace flexibility such as mommy tracks or daddy tracks…. What we need are less rigid forms of work flexibility… that make it more likely that employees can maintain equal commitments between work and family”

-Work-Life Pioneer Tim Hall, as quoted in my new HBR Online article, Flex Time Doesn’t Need to be an HR Policy

Welcome to Fathers, Work and Family
Welcome to Fathers, Work and Family

Thank you for reading, and for visiting my site. For those of you who are visiting Fathers, Work and Family for the first time, feel free to have a look around. A link to my “Greatest Hits” here (I particularly recommend you read this and this), links to my work at HBR, The Wall Street Journal and Time, Good Men Project and Huffington Post, and my participation at the White House Working Families Summit up at the top of the page, category listings along the right-hand side, and of course, buttons you can use to follow Fathers, Work and Family via email, twitter or Facebook.

Every Day Is a Gift: Giving Thanks for a Friend I Never Met

“Be present. Enjoy your life. Enjoy the time you have with those you love. Every day is a gift.”

I never met Oren Miller, but I consider him a friend. When I started blogging, Oren stumbled upon me on the internet and invited me to join a new Facebook group he created for dad bloggers.

Oren MIller and his son (Oren shared this photo with me when he wrote as a guest for FWF
Oren MIller and his son (Oren shared this photo with me when he wrote as a guest for FWF)

This group has become an important part of my life. I often describe Dad Bloggers as one third frat house, one third writing seminar, and one third safe haven for peer support. I am a better writer and have a fuller life both online and in real life thanks to this group.

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