My Paternity Leave Message for the Dad 2.0 Summit

This week, I’ll be at the Dad 2.0 Summit, an annual gathering of bloggers, brands and influencers trying to get the message out to the world about the importance of involved fatherhood, as well as how fatherhood is depicted in the media and supported in society. I’ll be moderating a panel on paternity leave and other workplace supports for fathers, with the goal of arming influencers with the information and motivation they need to spread the word on the importance and benefits of paternity leave. Here’s the message I hope to spread.

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Paternity Leave is good for:

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Dr. Stewart Friedman on Leading the Life You Want, Bruce Springsteen and Getting Yourself Unstuck

Dr. Stewart Friedman is the Practice Professor of Management at the Wharton Business school, the Founding Director of the Leadership Program and the Director of the Work/Life Integration Project, and the author of several books on leadership and work-life integration, most recently the excellent “Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life.” As one of the most prominent men in the field of Work/Life Integration, he has long been one of my role models. In fact, getting to know him over the past few years has been one of the most rewarding aspects of my foray into social media.

Dr. Stewart Friedman discusses his latest book
Dr. Stewart Friedman discusses his latest book

Dr. Friedman was kind enough to speak with me about his latest book. In it, he profiles successful people in business (former Bain CEO Tom Tierney and Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg) public service (First Lady Michelle Obama and former Navy Seal and philanthropist Eric Greitens) and sports/entertainment (rock god Bruce Springsteen and US soccer champion Julie Foudy) as models for work-life success. He then leads the reader through assessments and exercises so they can apply those lessons to their own lives. Great stuff.

1. Since I’m a big fan, let’s start with the Boss. Can you discuss one important lesson we can learn from Bruce and apply to our own lives?

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Richard Sherman’s Baby Is Due Just in Time for the Super Bowl. What Should He Do?

UPDATE: The baby arrived Thursday morning, so no decision was needed. Mom, dad and baby are all doing great. Congrats!

Seattle Seahawk cornerback and media lightning-rod Richard Sherman’s girlfriend is due to give birth to their first child any day now, and of course Sunday is the Super Bowl.

Dad-to-be Richard Sherman faces a dilemma. (photo used via creative commons license)
Dad-to-be Richard Sherman faces a dilemma. (photo used via creative commons license)

Sherman stated that they have a plan in place should the baby decide to enter the world just before or during the game, but that the birth of his child is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity he doesn’t want to miss. He jokingly pleaded with his unborn son to “stay disciplined and patient and wait just a few more days to help daddy out.” Seahawks coach Pete Carroll astonishingly stated that ” we’re all family first, so he should do what he thinks is right.” Lots of athletes and writers have stated they think he should skip the Super Bowl for the birth.

So, what do I think Sherman should do if his girlfriend goes into labor before or during the game?

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SOTU, Swiffer, Buzzfeed, The Onion and Ruth Bader Ginsberg: Work-Family News Roundup January 2015

Fatherhood, Work and Family have been in the news a lot lately. Here’s a roundup of some of my favorite content from the past few months.

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First, here’s what I’ve been up to:

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The Key to Work-Life Success: Intentional Choices

“When we consciously think about our actions and how we spend our time, we tend to be more consistent with our priorities. When we are on auto-pilot, we drift from our priorities and towards whatever happens to be most urgent at the moment “

Sometimes I allow 24/7 connectivity to work get in the way of family time
Sometimes I allow 24/7 connectivity to work get in the way of family time

A few months ago, a financial planner gave a guest lecture to students at my university about the importance of smart financial management right out of college. He talked about his own spending habits when he got his first job. As he drove to work for his first day, he stopped along the way for a Starbucks – after all, he had money now, and he deserved a treat. Later that day, his new colleagues took him out to lunch at a local café. What started as one-off decisions quickly became habits. Continue reading

My New Year’s Resolution: Better Work-Family Balance Through Goal-Setting (and a Handy-Dandy Fitness App)

Setting specific, measureable goals could be the key to better work and family balance. Here’s how

We are more likely to spend quality time with family if we set goals and plan ahead
We are more likely to spend quality time with family if we set goals and plan ahead

New Year’s Resolutions Stink

For the past few years, my New Year’s Resolution has been “To get in better shape.” Which, like most New Year’s resolutions, is a lousy, vague “do your best” style goal- these are largely ineffective. In fact, research shows that we are more likely to stick to and reach our goals when they are specific and measurable, when they are difficult enough to require sustained effort but are still realistically attainable, and when they have a deadline. Continue reading

Holiday Gratitude 2014

Two years ago, a wise friend told me, “If you want to start writing a book in two years, start a blog now.” Following her advice has changed my life.

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This blog has opened so many doors for me, and given me the opportunity to engage all of you in an important conversation about work-family issues for fathers. Continue reading