My Book Launches in Early June!

"Finally! This is the book dads juggling work and family have been waiting for" - Brad Harrington, PhD, Boston College, lead author of The New Dad

As soon as my Amazon page launches, you can click right here to pre-order TWDSG in print or e-book

Coming Soon!

Advice From My Wife: An Excerpt From The Working Dad’s Survival Guide

We are officially 49 days away from the launch of The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home! The book is on the presses as we speak, and the wheels of promotion and commerce have begun to spin. I am incredibly excited!

book cover 3Chapter 12 of the book is entitled, “Building Your Fatherhood Network.” In it, I discuss the importance of building and maintaining friendships with fellow dads. The fact is that too many dads feel alone, and it gets harder to make friends as we get older and busier. Regular informal fun time with fellow dads provides a needed social outlet and the opportunity to share advice and support. Great stuff, if I do say so myself. ;)

Not long ago, I was reading a draft of Chapter 12 to Amy, when she made the following comment. It was so insightful that I typed it down, and now it is included in the book. Here goes:

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Why Amazon Family Matters

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Click to join 11,000+ in signing the Change.org petition

For the past few weeks, many in the dad blogging community have united around the cause to get Amazon.com to change the name of their parent-centric shopping site from “Amazon Mom” to “Amazon Family.”

To many, verbiage like “Amazon Mom” seems like a small concern. In the grand scheme of things, I guess it is. However, to me, these words are an indicator of how our society often undervalues fathers and, by implication, places an unfair burden on mothers. After all, if only “moms” are full “parents,” so much of the burden shifts to them. Many others have written about the societal implications of such messaging for both moms and dads, so today, I’d like to focus on how this notion that parenting is woman’s work insidiously makes its way into corporate culture- to the detriment of working dads, working moms, kids and employers themselves.

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6 Ways Life Is Better When You Work an Alternate Schedule

Because I can work from here at night, I have time during the day to do the rest.

Because I can work from here at night, I have time during the day to do the rest.

I am an advocate for more flexible work arrangements in which people have more control over where and when they accomplish their work. These arrangements benefit employers through reduced turnover and absenteeism, as well as higher employee engagement and productivity. They benefit employees by allowing better work/family balance, as well as lowered stress and higher work and family satisfaction.

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The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: Excerpt and Update

My first book, The Working Dad’s Survival Guide: How to Succeed at Work and at Home (Motivational Press, 2015), will launch this summer in time for Father’s day.

Here’s the cover design for the Working Dad’s Survival Guide!

The book is written, has been edited and copy-edited, and is now undergoing formatting. The gears of publicity are snapping into motion. Meanwhile, I am thrilled to unveil the cover design. Also, here’s a quick excerpt from Chapter 4: The Ins and Outs of Workplace Flexibility: Continue reading

My Paternity Leave Message for the Dad 2.0 Summit

This week, I’ll be at the Dad 2.0 Summit, an annual gathering of bloggers, brands and influencers trying to get the message out to the world about the importance of involved fatherhood, as well as how fatherhood is depicted in the media and supported in society. I’ll be moderating a panel on paternity leave and other workplace supports for fathers, with the goal of arming influencers with the information and motivation they need to spread the word on the importance and benefits of paternity leave. Here’s the message I hope to spread.

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Paternity Leave is good for:

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Dr. Stewart Friedman on Leading the Life You Want, Bruce Springsteen and Getting Yourself Unstuck

Dr. Stewart Friedman discusses his latest book
Dr. Stewart Friedman discusses his latest book

 

Dr. Stewart Friedman is the Practice Professor of Management at the Wharton Business school, the Founding Director of the Leadership Program and the Director of the Work/Life Integration Project, and the author of several books on leadership and work-life integration, most recently the excellent “Leading the Life You Want: Skills for Integrating Work and Life.” As one of the most prominent men in the field of Work/Life Integration, he has long been one of my role models. In fact, getting to know him over the past few years has been one of the most rewarding aspects of my foray into social media.

Dr. Friedman was kind enough to speak with me about his latest book. In it, he profiles successful people in business (former Bain CEO Tom Tierney and Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg) public service (First Lady Michelle Obama and former Navy Seal and philanthropist Eric Greitens) and sports/entertainment (rock god Bruce Springsteen and US soccer champion Julie Foudy) as models for work-life success. He then leads the reader through assessments and exercises so they can apply those lessons to their own lives. Great stuff.

1. Since I’m a big fan, let’s start with the Boss. Can you discuss one important lesson we can learn from Bruce and apply to our own lives?

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Richard Sherman’s Baby Is Due Just in Time for the Super Bowl. What Should He Do?

UPDATE: The baby arrived Thursday morning, so no decision was needed. Mom, dad and baby are all doing great. Congrats!

Dad-to-be Richard Sherman faces a dilemma. (photo used via creative commons license)

Dad-to-be Richard Sherman faces a dilemma. (photo used via creative commons license)

Seattle Seahawk cornerback and media lightning-rod Richard Sherman’s girlfriend is due to give birth to their first child any day now, and of course Sunday is the Super Bowl.

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SOTU, Swiffer, Buzzfeed, The Onion and Ruth Bader Ginsberg: Work-Family News Roundup January 2015

Fatherhood, Work and Family have been in the news a lot lately. Here’s a roundup of some of my favorite content from the past few months.

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First, here’s what I’ve been up to:

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The Key to Work-Life Success: Intentional Choices

“When we consciously think about our actions and how we spend our time, we tend to be more consistent with our priorities. When we are on auto-pilot, we drift from our priorities and towards whatever happens to be most urgent at the moment “

Sometimes I allow 24/7 connectivity to work get in the way of family time

Sometimes I allow 24/7 connectivity to work get in the way of family time

A few months ago, a financial planner gave a guest lecture to students at my university about the importance of smart financial management right out of college. He talked about his own spending habits when he got his first job. As he drove to work for his first day, he stopped along the way for a Starbucks – after all, he had money now, and he deserved a treat. Later that day, his new colleagues took him out to lunch at a local café. What started as one-off decisions quickly became habits. Continue reading

My New Year’s Resolution: Better Work-Family Balance Through Goal-Setting (and a Handy-Dandy Fitness App)

Setting specific, measureable goals could be the key to better work and family balance. Here’s how

We are more likely to spend quality time with family if we set goals and plan ahead

We are more likely to spend quality time with family if we set goals and plan ahead

New Year’s Resolutions Stink

For the past few years, my New Year’s Resolution has been “To get in better shape.” Which, like most New Year’s resolutions, is a lousy, vague “do your best” style goal- these are largely ineffective. In fact, research shows that we are more likely to stick to and reach our goals when they are specific and measurable, when they are difficult enough to require sustained effort but are still realistically attainable, and when they have a deadline. Continue reading

Holiday Gratitude 2014

Two years ago, a wise friend told me, “If you want to start writing a book in two years, start a blog now.” Following her advice has changed my life.

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This blog has opened so many doors for me, and given me the opportunity to engage all of you in an important conversation about work-family issues for fathers. Continue reading

Hey Dads: Year-Long Presence Is the Best Christmas Present

Our kids may want things, but they NEED time with their fathers. This Christmas, instead of stuff, we should give our kids the opportunities to do more fun things with us. Here are a few ideas.

Regardless of what you and your kids like to do, why not have Santa give you more opportunities to do them together

The best gift you can give your kids is your consistent presence. Happily, instead of buying your kids the latest junky plastic thingamabob they have their eye on, we can use Christmas (or Hanukkah) gifts as a as an excuse to purchase things that create opportunities for time together. Here are a few suggestions: Continue reading

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