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“New School” CEOs Zuckerberg and Mycoskie Walk the Talk on Paternity Leave

My paternity leave was important to me, buyt Mycoiskie and Zuckerberg paternity leave are important for the business world

My paternity leave was important to me, but Mycoskie and Zuckerberg paternity leave are important for the business world

Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook and Blake Mycoskie of TOMS Shoes are “new school” male CEOs who are sending an important message about the importance of fatherhood relative to business and how an involved home life goes together with financial success.

After all, if Facebook can survive without Zuckerberg for two months and TOMS can get by without Mycoskie for 12 weeks, what excuse do other top managers have for not taking or not providing extended paternity leave? Here are my thoughts on this exciting development.

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“I Am Not Unique”: On Being the Only Man at a Women’s Leadership Conference

My work-life panel at Mom-mentum

My work-life panel at Mom-mentum. I was honored to be the only man on the program that day

About two weeks ago, I was honored to appear as a panelist at Mom-Mentum’s annual Women’s Leadership Conference. It was a wonderful event filled with excellent speakers (especially the inspirational Debra Sandler), panels, workshops and networking opportunities.

I was the only man on the program, and I joked I was “there to represent the Y chromosome.” I served on a panel that discussed balancing family concerns with leadership ambitions. The discussion was great, in part due to the really interesting and revelatory questions asked by the moderator. The women on the panel and in the audience were very welcoming to me and to the work-family challenges faced by dads.

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12 Thoughts about Paul Ryan and Family

Paul Ryan and His Family

Paul Ryan and Family

Incoming Speaker of the House Paul Ryan articulated several demands before he would accept the position. Among them was his insistence that his new duties do not interfere with his time for family. Here are my thoughts on this intriguing news.

  • It is great news that Paul Ryan voiced his concerns that being promoted to Speaker of the House could represent a threat to his work life balance and his time with his family.

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3 Simple Rules for Stopping the Daddy Wars Before They Start

The “Daddy Wars” haven’t yet heated up. Let’s stop them before they start.

Stop the daddy wars before they start. Support your fellow dads!

Stop the daddy wars before they start. Support your fellow dads! (flickr: creative commons)

Women are under a lot of pressure to be “perfect parents.” There’s so much unfair societal pressure, comparison and judgment of those who do things differently. No matter what moms do, there seems to be some “queen bee” mom or some aspect of the media telling moms they are doing it wrong.

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Ambassadors of Involved Fatherhood

Me, along with fellow ambassadors of involved fatherhood at the National At-Home Dad Network Convention

The ambassadors of involved fatherhood of the National At-Home Dad Network

Say it with me: “Almost every dad I know is putting in the work to be a loving, hands-on, involved dad.”

Last week, I was honored to be the opening keynote speaker at the 20th Annual National At-Home Dad Network Convention. It was an amazing experience: I met so many fantastic dads, learned a lot,  and made many new friends.

More than any other group, this network of at-home dads represents the front lines of changing the way society looks at involved fatherhood and modern masculinity. Of course, being on the front lines means that these at-home dads face a lot of scrutiny and stigma, and that they get A LOT of really dumb things said to them. Things like:

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Thank You, Working Mother Magazine. Signed Working Dads.

My salute to Working Mother Magazine, on behalf of working dads

My salute to Working Mother Magazine, on behalf of working dads

For 30 years, Working Mother Magazine has blazed a trail that has helped all working parents- including dads.

This week marks the 30th anniversary of Working Mother Magazine’s annual list of top employers for working moms. To mark this event, they asked 30 work-life experts and advocates to share their thoughts about Working Mother’s impact over the years. I am honored to have been asked to contribute. Here’s my tribute to Working Mother Magazine:

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Juggling Work and Family During School Holidays

I love spending time with Nick, but school holidays sometimes leave me scrambling

I love spending time with Nick, but school holidays sometimes leave me scrambling

This September has had lots of school holidays for my son- Labor Day, Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur- leaving our carefully prepared family schedule in shambles. Here are some ideas how we can adjust when school’s out.

Like most working parents, my wife and I have come to rely upon our son’s school as an important cog in the machinery that keeps our work-family juggle humming along.

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Reader Reviews of The Working Dad’s Survival Guide

What do the first batch of reader reviews on have to say about the Working Dad’s Survival Guide? Thankfully, so far, really good things.

Book coverHands down, the scariest and most exciting part of writing a book is launching it out into the world to see how the market, and more importantly, how readers react.

What if no one cares? Worse, what if people don’t like it?

I’m very happy to report that the early returns on The Working Dad’s Survival Guide are strong (It was initially the #1 Best Seller for Job Markets and Advice on Amazon). But more importantly, the book is out there helping people. Here’s what readers have to say about The Working Dad’s Survival Guide (now available as an e-book and audio book!) through their reviews on Amazon:

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200 Business Professors for Paid Family Leave

I/m not alone in supporting paid family leave. Here's why

I’m not alone in supporting paid family leave. Join us.

200 business professors support paid family leave and have petitioned Congress. Here’s why.

Business school professors are situated at a very interesting crossroads.

On one hand, we are very well connected to the business community. Most of us interact with executives and managers on an ongoing basis. We keep up with industry best practices. Many consult with leading firms. We write for practitioner outlets and trade magazines. We provide executive training and education to those near the top of organizational charts, as well as MBA classes to those on the first few rungs of the ladder. In many ways, and through many means, we are very plugged into the concerns of the business community.

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Fatherhood and Empathy: Author Q&A with Torsten Klaus

Empathy and fatherhood. Torsten Klaus' very authentic and readable book of encouragement and advice.

Fatherhood and empathy. Torsten Klaus’ very authentic and readable book of encouragement and advice.

One of the cool things about publishing a book is that you get to become “book friends” with other authors in your field. A few weeks ago, Torsten Klaus and I exchanged books. I want to share some of the wisdom and perspective from his book, The Empathic Father, which I recommend. Here’s my Q&A with Torsten, focusing on his advice on fatherhood and empathy.

1. Your book covers a wide range of issues- birth plans, attachment parenting, sex after childbirth, child discipline, work-family balance, how couples argue, active listening, etc. The through-line is the importance of leading with empathy. Can you explain how empathy can influence how dads can handle such a wide range of parenting and marriage-related challenges?

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Netflix and Paternity Leave- A Golden Age? Not Quite Yet.

Have companies like Netflix ushered in a Golden Age of Paternity Leave? Not quite yet.

Netflix and paternity leave! Have companies ushered in a Golden Age of Paternity Leave? Not quite yet.

We seem to be living in a sudden Golden Age of Paternity Leave.

In the past two months, I’ve seen glowing news reports of major, influential companies such as Virgin Atlantic, IBM, Ernst & Young, Twitter, Goldman Sachs, Citigroup, T-Mobile, Facebook, Bank of America, and Microsoft adopting or significantly expanding their paternity leave policies. The latest and greatest announcement is of Netflix and paternity leave- both new moms and new dads can take up to a year of unlimited paid parental leave. That’s practically Swedish of them.

I am thrilled by this rapid progress, and especially by Netflix’s policy. However, during this exciting sweep of announcements, it is easy to forget that the adoption of paid paternity leave is just a first step in creating societal awareness of the importance of involved fatherhood, and the need for corporate cultures to assist men in their work-family challenges.
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Author Q&A: Laura Vanderkam on Time Management

Time management expert Laura Vanderkan is the author of I Know How She Does It.

Time management expert Laura Vanderkam is the author of I Know How She Does It.

When I was doing research for a Harvard Business Review article on time management, I came across Laura Vanderkam’s work on the topic. She has since become one of my favorite authors. We corresponded on twitter, and it turns out that our most recent books were published on the very same day, just a few months ago.

Her book, “I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time,” is really great, and makes the case that many successful people are able to find enough time for both their careers and their family/personal lives. I wanted to share some of the wisdom from her book with you. Here’s my Q&A with best-selling author, Laura Vanderkam.

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