Coaches Beilein and Byrd took different paths to the NCAA tournament, involving different work-life trade-offs. What we could learn from their stories.
I’m not a big college sports fan, but I enjoy March Madness. The school spirit, close games, tantalizing upsets are a perfect recipe for excitement.
But this year, something else caught my attention. Some coaches, like legends Jim Boeheim and Mike Krzyzewski, have helmed prestigious programs for decades. Most coaches aren’t that fortunate.
To climb the ranks of college basketball, coaches often parlay success at a smaller program into a new job at a larger one, often changing employers many times until reaching the highest ranks. This ambition and career focus is admirable, but must come at a cost to other aspects of life. Imagine moving your family cross-country five times in a 20 year period? This has to take a toll.
One study found that Division I, II and II head coaches worked an average of 69 hours a week, and spent 77 days on the road each year. Over 80% of coaches stated that their work pressures contributed to marital difficulties and divorce. Some have asserted (although the statistics are hard to validate) that 70% of coaches divorce during their first 15 years in the profession, well above the national average.
I’ve been writing a lot lately about the importance of thinking through one’s work- and family-related priorities, making sure your spouse/family are on board, and then making family decisions consistent with those priorities. Whatever a family chooses is generally ok, as long as the decision is made together and everyone’s best interests are taken into account.
In this article, I’d like to use two coaches in this year’s NCAA basketball tournament to illustrate the range of choices one can make when it comes to career ambition, and the trade-offs that may be involved. I have no inside information here, just using public information on their careers to illustrate a larger point.
University of Michigan head coach John Beilein
Beilein is at the helm of one of the most prestigious basketball programs in the country (and has taken the Wolverines to the Final Four!). He took a long, winding route to get there. Over the last 25 years, Beilein was the head coach at Erie Community College, Nazareth College, Le Moyne College, Canisius College, University of Richmond, West Virginia University, and now Michigan.
That’s a lot of packing and unpacking (town to town, up and down the dial). But that’s the price you pay to make it to a program like Michigan.
According to his wikipedia page, Beilein has been married for 35 years, and has four children, all of whom appear to be happy, healthy and successful (one even followed his dad into coaching and is now the coach at West Virginia Wesleyan University).
I have unbelievable respect for the Beilin family, and especially for John’s wife, Kathleen. To have balanced the intense working hours required of a big-time college basketball coach (recruiting trips, glad-handing boosters, travel, long hours of practice and planning, media demands) while raising four children is remarkable enough. To persevere through SEVEN moves is even moreso.
The Beileins bucked the trend. I can’t imagine it was easy, but I bet John and Kathleen understood his career ambitions and came to an agreement about how they would make their marriage and family work. I’m sure Kathleen shouldered a substantial load- she must have done so much unsung work to allow her husband to “Lean In” to his career.
Belmont University head coach Rick Byrd
The other path for sustained success at a high level in Division I basketball appears to be starting at a smaller, less prestigious program, staying for the long-term, and turning it into a consistent winner. This seems to be the path Rick Byrd chose.
Aside from Boeheim and Krzyzewski, Byrd is the longest-tenured coach in the tournament, having spent 27 years at Belmont. He started there well before Belmont was a Division I program. Belmont is now a mid-major power- reaching the NCAA tournament six times in the past eight seasons.
I’m sure his success is a byproduct of hard work, long hours and dedication to coaching. But it is clear he does not have quite the same demands on his time as Beilein- and he hasn’t uprooted his family seven times. This probably led to less work-family conflict, and to hear him tell it, a more lifestyle-friendly career:
“The longer you coach, just the longer you live and work, I think you come to understand that there are things that money can’t buy and that quality of life is important. When you work in a place and you live in a place that you love — and that people are kind to you and you enjoy coming to work every day — then you’re very fortunate, and you’re in that [top] 10 percent of all jobs.”
Frankly, it was hard to find information on Byrd’s private life- I suspect this is because he is in a situation in which he can maintain his privacy. What little I could find is that he lives with his wife and kids in the suburbs of Nashville and is one of the most respected men in his profession.
Byrd may not be the household name that Beilein is, and will never make as much money. He will almost certainly never contend seriously for the national title. But he has attained a level of success and respect that cannot be denied, and this seems to be more important than his greater ambitions:
“Once I was here and became comfortable, I got over the climb-the-ladder mentality. Coaches who want to make the next level, don’t care where they go or how they got there, just want to end up coaching at Kentucky or wherever. Belmont and Nashville made me lose that not very long after I got here.”
Whichever path you choose- climbing the ladder and prioritizing career success, lowering career ambitions to make room for more family time, or finding that sweet spot between a good career and a more complete lifestyle- the key is to make sure your entire family is on board and everyone’s needs are being met. Then, work hard to live your priorities. It appears as if the Beilein and Byrd families would agree.
What do you think about these examples? The choices you have made regarding work and family ambitions? Let’s discuss in the comments section.